Far from doubt, close to yourself

Some feelings don’t speak loudly. They don’t shout; they don’t rush. They arrive quietly and settle into the soul. Certainty is one of them. It doesn’t enter the heart with noise—it comes gently, lays down your doubts, hushes the crowd inside, and softly says, “now it’s right.”

To be certain is not about the absence of fear or the presence of all the facts. It is to take a step not after thinking a thousand times but after trusting one single feeling. It doesn’t always require courage or deep knowledge—sometimes, peace is enough. Because certainty doesn’t always come from logic. Sometimes, it is born from intuition. It’s trusting the direction your heart beats toward. And that trust, more often than not, is stronger than all evidence.

Being certain isn’t about arriving at a harbour but recognising one. Even in the middle of the sea, if you still feel you know your way… if a part of you remains calm despite the crashing waves and darkening sky—then you are certain.

As children, we were better at this. We didn’t hesitate when picking a toy. We knew what colour we liked, who we wanted to be friends with, and who we loved. Because our hearts weren’t yet filled with outside voices. What others thought, expected, or approved of meant nothing. Our hands reached toward what our hearts longed for. That purity, that directness—there was certainty in it. But growing up layered that simplicity with doubts.

We learnt more as we grew. More choices, more possibilities, more consequences. Every road led to a different ending; every choice carried the possibility of regret. And the more we knew, the more confused we became. Because sometimes, knowledge doesn’t bring clarity—it brings noise.

Yet there are still moments when we are certain. Even if we can’t explain why. We see a face and trust it instantly. We walk into a house for the first time and feel, “this is it.” We wander a city and sense the years waiting to be lived there. We hear a voice, and our heartbeat changes. That kind of knowing needs no proof or logic. It lives inside us. It is deep. Unshakable.

Certainty is the moment when all external voices fall silent and the inner voice speaks. It is where you hear what you feel, without the clutter of other people’s thoughts. That’s why it’s related to stillness. It thrives not in crowds, but in solitude. It doesn’t arrive with loud declarations but with calm steps.

This state is also the essence of love. Someone who truly loves is certain of their beloved. No matter the distance, no matter the uncertainty—deep within, they carry the unshakable knowledge of that love’s existence. This is why love is not just about closeness—it’s about certainty.

What we need most in life is this: to be certain of something. A person, a place, a path, or even ourselves. Because when certainty is there, fear diminishes. Doubt retreats. The inner chaos quiets. Indecision is a heavy burden. Letting go of it lifts us. Our steps become firmer, our eyes clearer, and most of all, our hearts more open.

But let’s not mistake certainty for always being right. Sometimes being certain means stepping forward knowing you might be wrong. It’s saying, “even if I’m mistaken, I still want to walk this path.” Certainty isn’t about avoiding risk—it’s about not silencing your inner voice.

To be certain is a choice. It means leaving hesitation behind. Not living in potential but embracing a reality. Because someone who is certain lives not with unfinished sentences, but with full, honest feelings.

Still, this isn’t always easy. There are so many questions in our minds, so much uncertainty… We fall over and over in our own thoughts before taking a step. But sometimes, to be certain is to focus not on the questions—but on the answer. And the answer is inside. Quiet, but there.

Being certain of yourself might be the deepest certainty of all. Knowing who you are, understanding what you want, sensing where you belong… When a person holds those answers, certainty in everything else comes easier. Because the outside world reflects the inner one.

And maybe what we long for most is to feel certain about life itself. A morning that won’t abandon us halfway through, a shoulder that won’t slip away, a time where our efforts bear fruit… It’s hard to believe in these fully—I know. But still, despite everything, the human heart wants to be sure of something. Because certainty walks hand in hand with hope. And hope is the very act of living.

To be certain isn’t just about reaching a decision—it’s about carrying that decision with peace. It’s being able to smile and say “yes” when everyone else asks, “are you sure?” And sometimes, just that is enough to change an entire life.

Burak Anaturk is a professional civil engineer. He focuses on sharing lessons from his life experiences, exploring diverse perspectives, and discussing personal development topics.
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